Denial is a defense mechanism we sometimes use to shield ourselves from painful emotions, such as anxiety. It can show up as ignoring, minimizing, or twisting the facts to make them feel less threatening. At its core, denial is both an unwillingness and an inability to face the full truth of a situation.
In the context of addiction, denial allows individuals to constantly engage in harmful behaviours, for instance not stopping drug use despite harmful consequences.
Common signs of denial within the context of addiction:
- Refusal to accept there is a problem
- Hiding or lying about addictive behaviors
- Minimizing harmful consequences after drug use
- Blaming others, for example: I am drinking because of that argument that happened
Few suggestions when talking to someone who is in denial about their Addiction
Having a conversation with a loved one in denial about their addiction can feel like walking on eggshells. You may worry about damaging trust or pushing them away. Knowing how to approach these talks might help.
Dos
- Learn about addiction – The more you understand what addiction is and how it affects a person, the better equipped you’ll be to respond with empathy and insight.
- Non-judgmental approach – People struggling with addiction often feel ashamed, isolated, and judged. A kind, non-judgmental approach can help them feel seen and supported.
- Truly listen – Give them space to share their perspective without interruption. Addiction doesn’t develop in isolation, and feeling heard may help them open up.